Saturday, December 17, 2011

The Duggars

I’ve been thinking about Michelle Duggar lately. Now I realize they are the ones that decided to have their family on TV and with that decision there are consequences.  One of the consequences is that everyone knows your business and unfortunately has a comment on it.

I don’t watch their show. I have a couple times and know a little about their family. When I heard (well really read since I saw it on the internet) about her miscarriage I was really sad for her. I know many people have an opinion about how many kids they have and her age (Mrs. R has a post about this here and read the comments too they are good also). I have not read the comments on Facebook or on the TLC website. I think the internet offers people an opportunity to say things they would NEVER say to someone personally. It really offers anonymity and a window into others lives that we didn’t use to have.

Here’s how I feel. I was sad when I heard about the miscarriage. Everyone I know who has had a miscarriage is sad- no matter how many children they have or if they are able to get pregnant again right away. But what really bothered me was the lack us support others offered. What happened to “if you don’t have anything nice to say- don’t say anything at all”? What happened to "mind your own business"? (Although by putting their life on TV they do want us in their business or they don’t have a show. . .)

Now I do think 20 children are too many for ME but that is who I make decisions for - me. I really don’t know about anyone else and I don't get to decide about anyone else either.  I only know about Jake and I and what works for us.

I hope Michelle Duggar and her family are doing well and has a way to deal with their grief. I also hope Mrs. Duggar doesn’t see the negative comments. But what I really hope is that we start being kinder and more compassionate even if we are commenting anonymously on a website. There is a primary song that says at the end "Kindness begins with me" Let's use this not only in real life but online too!

I want to be kind to everyone
For that is right you see
So I say to myself
Remember this
Kindess begins with me.

1 comment:

Lena Baron said...

A beautiful post. I hadn't heard that she miscarried. Losing a baby is very heart wrenching. Thank you for sharing. I will pray for Michelle!